If I’m angry, I need someone to pour my anger to. If I’m sad, I want someone to tell me it’s going to get better. If I’m happy, I want to share that with someone.if I eat something nice,I want to tell someone,I want someone dear to me to compliment me anytime. To me, friends are a necessity.”—Joy(Australia)
generally it's been said that little children need playmates, whereas adolescents need friends.
What’s the difference?
A playmate is someone who keeps you company.
A friend is someone who also shares your values.
We all know that a proverbs that says "true companion is loving all the time, and is a brother that is born for when there is distress.”
That’s probably describing a deeper kind of friendship than you found as a child at the playground!
Fact: As you progress toward adulthood, you need friends who
1. Have admirable qualities
2. Live by praiseworthy standards
3. Have a positive influence on you
4.knows your worth
5. Correct you when need be
6. Support you in good and hard time
7. Even assist you finacialy.
So before seeking to have this kind of friend in your life, you too need to be that same friends to others.
True friends never betray each other trust, said to say that most people do betray each other. True friends are always there both in difficult time and a good times so we only know true friends when things are hard if they are still there with you and help you get back on your feet that means they are good friends but if they are only there for when things are always good for you just know that these are not the kind of friends you should keep.
Always be sensitive enough to know when they leave and when they will come back, friends are not just words but they are much more that making a lasting memories in our lives.
So ask yourself what kind of memory am I making in My Friends Life? so with that it will help you to know if you will increase your love for your friends or improve the way you talk or the way you do things with your friend.
Never allowed the way other betrayed you to affect your current friendship, individuals are different so never allow your previous experience with friends affect your current friendship.
Always remember that no matter what,we all need friends orderwise you will feel lonely and isolated and might end up doing things that you will regret later so always have friends to stick around and help you get through difficult time.
"I have been betrayed by someone who I took as my brother not just a friend,it hurts me so bad"- Paul (Nigeria)
as it is in a relationship, friendship should also be viewed as commitment too,be committed to each other.
Practice giving finacialy, morally and emotionally be there for each other.
If your best friend is same sex,that's beautiful but if it's an opposite sex,try not to take advantage of this by going too intimate,like foul play and even having sex,
Friends Don't have sex with each other but lovers do..we will talk about how to handle a proper friendship between an apposite sex in future article.
Try and support your try to support your friend when he or she is undergoing emotional stress,school stress and also relationship stress.
Try to know your boundary as a friend and never ask for so many question about each family and personal life if he or she has not yet feel comfortable telling you so just be patient and enjoy your friendship while it last when the time comes the friendship will grow and you will be able to express each other's feelings, personal life even family matters to each other.
So that will be all for this topic but however the next topic I am going to talk about _what if someone just walk up to you and say hey I want to be your friend, someone you never knew of,
how will you respond?
and what will you do at that instant?
what will you say?
In the next article we'll talk about it.
so feel free to share, like and comment. if you are still having difficulty in maintaining friendship just send us a mail and will get back to you immediately.
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